{"id":420,"date":"2020-02-10T09:52:21","date_gmt":"2020-02-10T09:52:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thejuntoinstitute.com\/shop\/?p=420"},"modified":"2022-02-10T20:18:24","modified_gmt":"2022-02-10T20:18:24","slug":"i-need-you-to","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thejuntoinstitute.com\/shop\/i-need-you-to\/","title":{"rendered":"I Need You To&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"[vc_row type=&#8221;in_container&#8221; full_screen_row_position=&#8221;middle&#8221; column_margin=&#8221;default&#8221; column_direction=&#8221;default&#8221; column_direction_tablet=&#8221;default&#8221; column_direction_phone=&#8221;default&#8221; scene_position=&#8221;center&#8221; text_color=&#8221;dark&#8221; text_align=&#8221;left&#8221; row_border_radius=&#8221;none&#8221; row_border_radius_applies=&#8221;bg&#8221; overlay_strength=&#8221;0.3&#8243; gradient_direction=&#8221;left_to_right&#8221; shape_divider_position=&#8221;bottom&#8221; bg_image_animation=&#8221;none&#8221;][vc_column column_padding=&#8221;no-extra-padding&#8221; column_padding_tablet=&#8221;inherit&#8221; column_padding_phone=&#8221;inherit&#8221; column_padding_position=&#8221;all&#8221; background_color_opacity=&#8221;1&#8243; background_hover_color_opacity=&#8221;1&#8243; column_shadow=&#8221;none&#8221; column_border_radius=&#8221;none&#8221; column_link_target=&#8221;_self&#8221; gradient_direction=&#8221;left_to_right&#8221; overlay_strength=&#8221;0.3&#8243; width=&#8221;1\/1&#8243; tablet_width_inherit=&#8221;default&#8221; tablet_text_alignment=&#8221;default&#8221; phone_text_alignment=&#8221;default&#8221; column_border_width=&#8221;none&#8221; column_border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221; bg_image_animation=&#8221;none&#8221;][vc_column_text]As I continue my journey with emotional intelligence, one of the most enjoyable practices I have is noticing language and behavior that is or isn&#8217;t emotionally intelligent. Sometimes it&#8217;s my own and sometimes it&#8217;s others&#8217;. But in all cases, they&#8217;re delightful learning moments that are important to share with others.<\/p>\n<div class=\"sqs-block-content\">\n<div id=\"block-297cb41d8cca0cbba217\" class=\"sqs-block html-block sqs-block-html\" data-block-type=\"2\">\n<div class=\"sqs-block-content\">\n<nav class=\"item pagination\">\n<div class=\"content-wrapper\">\n<p>Last week, I overheard someone I don&#8217;t know tell a team member, &#8220;I need you to get that report draft&#8230;&#8221; It occurred to me that there was a time I used that phrase quite often. And it&#8217;s a classic example of emotionally unintelligent leadership.<\/p>\n<p>Using our <a href=\"https:\/\/thejuntoinstitute.com\/shop\/blog\/the-building-blocks-of-emotional-intelligence\">building blocks<\/a> framework, &#8220;I need you to&#8230;&#8221; is a statement that lacks the use of social awareness and relationship management skills. It&#8217;s command-like, showing virtually no interest in the other person and demonstrating a lack of empathy. In addition, it&#8217;s not an effective way to inspire and influence someone. &#8220;I need you to&#8230;&#8221; comes across as being self-centered, making it all about the person saying it.<\/p>\n<p>So the next time we find ourselves about to utter those words, let&#8217;s try engaging our self-awareness skills (knowing the impact we have on others). Instead, let&#8217;s use a polite request to ask the same thing we&#8217;re trying to communicate. It&#8217;s more likely to demonstrate effective leadership: moving the other person in the direction we&#8217;re going. 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